You’re bracing yourself for conflict while keeping it together. You can hear and see someone’s anger when they’re mad at you. Tears come suddenly and powerfully. Even to save your life, you can’t keep your voice. It would make your life easier to stay calm during conflicts. Is it even possible? Yes, it is. Tenderhearted people have hope. Read on to know how:
Carder Stout, a Los Angeles-area psychotherapist, said that people in relationships cry because the crier usually responds from an authentic place. He said that they are possibly traumatized and frightened by confrontation, and their tears reflect that fear.
Maybe they don’t want to risk abandonment, so they express their fragility through arguments. According to Stout, some criers are ashamed of their emotional display, while others are healing. Stacey Rosenfeld, a psychologist in Coral Gables, Florida, said our tendency to cry might be tied to our attachment styles.
What Bridges The Emotional Gap Between
Criers And Non-Criers?
Whenever tears come, don’t be afraid to call a timeout. Do you know how some couples use safe words when sex gets rough? When your argument gets too heavy, come up with one. Take a break. Take a walk or go to the bathroom.
To let go of anxious energy, Stout advises his patients to put their bare feet on the ground. A 10-minute break works well. Create a plan for dealing with future fights. Find out what emotion lies behind your tears if you’re the weeper. Is your partner aware of your worries?
Rosenfeld suggested discussing your tendency to cry with your SO when you are not in conflict. This can help them understand why this happens and what it means. You won’t be able to avoid tears forever, but you can cope with your emotions when tears come.