We want to continue to be the adults in our children’s lives who set the example for the behavior we want them to exhibit. How can we acknowledge our mistakes without compromising these roles?
We provide our children with crucial life lessons by modeling how to accept responsibility for our actions and mistakes and apologize sincerely. We can relate to our children more authentically when they see us in our finest and worst moments.
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When You Mess Up, What To Say?
First, take a deep breath and be a little kind to yourself.
Even though it might feel appropriate to start your apology immediately, pause to check in with yourself.
Breathe Deeply And Reset.
Our neurological system has been somehow activated, which is the cause of our reaction—or overreaction. And our kids are not to blame for the trigger.
Because the child might behave the same way the next day if your needs are being addressed or rested.
You can’t repair it without reaching that physical space of compassion for yourself and others.
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Remind yourself that you’re not a bad parent. Being a human, you can occasionally lose composure. And that nothing is impossible.
Also, you should soften your tone and lessen your vocal volume. If you yell an apology at a child, they won’t believe it.
Be Simple And Emphasize Your Apologies.
When we speak to our children, there is a propensity to talk too much, to want to explain everything in great detail, and to turn every situation into a teaching opportunity.
Nobody wants to be scolded while also being given an apology.
At that very time, all you want is for him to understand that you’re sorry for becoming upset over it.
Even with teenagers, it’s best to keep your explanations concise, even though they might be longer with older children.